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7 Strategies for Handling a Narcissist in Your Life Moving On to a New Person

7 Strategies for Handling a Narcissist in Your Life Moving On to a New Person

The ostentatious display of affection between my former narcissistic partner and their new flame is proving a bit maddening! This is a feeling many can relate to. Why so? Because narcissists tend to be dramatic and showy when they’ve found someone new to admire them. They conspicuously advertise their exaggerated joy on social networks, sometimes while even trying to maintain a hold on past relationships as they form new ones. So how should you navigate being the one left behind? Let’s delve into it below.

Here’s a deeper look into what transpires when a narcissist finds a new source of admiration. Narcissistic individuals rely on a steady flow of compliments, praise, and attention to maintain their self-image. Without this ego boost, they often react negatively. Regardless of the type of narcissist – be it covert, malignant, communal, or grandiose – they all require this admiration to feel balanced.

In order to secure this, such attention-seeking individuals often present a likable facade, akin to a narcissists metaphorical web used to catch their ‘prey’. Let’s further explore how to tell if a narcissist has found a new ‘prey’.

1. Ignoring former partners: When narcissists find someone new, they might essentially disappear from their former partners’ lives. This could either be because they are consumed by their new relationship, or because they intend to ‘teach a lesson’ by withdrawing their affection. Consider it a blessing if this happens to you!

2. Overwhelming new partners with affection: ‘Love bombing’, characterized by flooding a new acquaintance with charm and flattery, is a classic narcissistic move. This charm offensive could provide a short-term feel-good factor, despite being insincere.

3. Spreading made-up stories about former partners: Narcissists may not let go of their past easily and may spread rumors about former partners, often twisting their words.

4. Rushing into commitment with the new partner: Narcissists tend to form relationships swiftly. They might move rapidly from meeting someone to talking about cohabitation and professing love.

5. Trying to reel former partners back in: Some narcissists might attempt to reconnect with their former partners after a hiatus in an effort termed as ‘hoovering’.

6. Slowly eroding the self-confidence of the new partner: Upon securing their new source, narcissists often gradually wear down their partner’s self-esteem initially disguised as jokes and later escalating, if not addressed in time.

7. Increasing focus on physical appearance: An overzealous attention to physical appearance can be an indication that a narcissist has found someone new.

In a new relationship, narcissists tend to exhibit a typical set of behaviors when they find a new source of admiration, be it a friend or a romantic partner. As they feel invigorated, they’ll attempt to ingratiate themselves in their new partner’s life with excessive goodwill and praise. For them, it’s like an endless supply of approval their favorite intoxicant.

Dealing with a post-breakup phase, especially in the aftermath of a narcissistic relationship, can be hard. Here are seven strategies to cope:

1. Seek comfort from friends and family: Share your experiences with your loved ones to ensure they understand your situation and can offer appropriate support.

2. Concentrate on your progress: The best measure of post-breakup success is focusing on your own growth. Concentrate on your aspirations and create future plans.

3. Engage in mindfulness practices: Scientific studies have proven the benefits of mindfulness activities such as meditation, yoga, and journaling on our physical and emotional health.

4. Maintain a healthy diet and exercise regimen: Your overall well-being greatly depends on your diet and physical activity. Regular exercise can help enhance your mental health.

5. Get back in the dating game: There’s no harm in enjoying a casual fling as long as you’re clear about your intentions. You might be surprised at how fun the dating world can be.

6. Utilize the “Gray Rock” method: This approach entails maintaining monotone conversations with narcissists using one-word answers, thereby discouraging their interest in you. Useful if contact cannot be avoided.

7. Completely cut off contact: The most effective strategy often involves entirely severing ties and blocking all contact with the narcissist.

Remember, narcissists are unlikely to change their behaviors. When in doubt, play safe and cut them off for good.

Ignoring a narcissist could have varying outcomes, depending on the type of the narcissist. Some may not linger on the past if the new relationship feeds their ego. Others might try to cling onto former partners out of fear, and could potentially turn hostile towards the new partner.

As for how long the new relationship will last – it largely depends on the individuals involved and their dynamics. While some may last for extended periods, healthier and more self-aware people typically realize the toxic dynamic sooner and leave.

In conclusion, while many of us exhibit some narcissistic traits, pathological narcissism can wreak havoc on relationships. Maintain your distance from such toxicity. View the departure of a narcissistic ex as a blessing in disguise and embrace a future of peace, tranquillity, and better mental health.

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